#45 The Power Of Confident Decision Making

We explore how fast, confident decisions reduce anxiety and create momentum, from the chaos of new-parent choices to the pressure of big life moves. We break down six practical skills to defeat decision fatigue, stop stalling, and choose from hope rather than fear.

• modern choice overload and why time feels faster
• decision fatigue from constant micro choices
• the high cost of indecision and self-doubt
• the myth of right vs wrong when both align with values
• choosing from hope and desired outcomes
• setting deadlines and building criteria lists
• permission to want what you want without judgment
• faith-informed action vs endless discernment
• benefits of deciding: peace, momentum, self-trust

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Transcript

New Year Reflections On Time

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Hello and welcome to my podcast. My name is Sharon Murphy and I'm a certified life and mindset coach and I help women who seek to be happy and holy. Each week I'll bring you tools and insights to help you on your journey to the heights. I'm so glad you're here. Hey everybody, welcome back. I'm so excited to be with you today. It's 2026. I know I was with you last week. It was the first day of 2026, but when I recorded, it was actually 2025, so I don't think it was as fresh in my mind. When I start saying 2026, it's crazy to me. The way my mind works, I feel like 2026, that right around the corner is 2023. Excuse me. Not 2023. 2030. Which sounds crazy to me, the year 2030. But then again, back when I was in high school, I went through high school from the late 80s, but the year I graduated was 1990. And I remember when I started school, my older siblings were like, wow, 1990. That's crazy. That sounds so strange that you're going to be graduating in 1990. Well, fast forward, one of my daughters, when she was starting like 4K, we talked about what their graduating class was going to be, the other parents and such. And we're like, wow, this class is going to be the graduating class of 2020. And we said, that is crazy to think that the year 2020 is going to be when our kids graduate. Well, as we know, that came and went. Now I'm at a time where my youngest son, his graduating class from high school is going to be 2030. So it's just crazy for me to think about how time is flying. And I'm sure it is for you too, because it seems like every time I talk to somebody, they're like, time is just flying. It doesn't matter how old you are or how young you are. It's like it's speeding up. But today I want to talk about decisions. Decisions, decisions, decisions. Because as the new year starts, there's all these decisions about planning out what I want to do for the new year. But also recently, and I'm going to just brag a little bit, at the end of last year, December 30th, my son and his wife, my oldest son, they had their first baby. And so we welcomed a new grandson to our lives. And it's it's been amazing. It's been great. He's adorable. But it was crazy to me when I visited them, I noticed something about how challenging it is, those first days and weeks when you have a new baby, right? If you're a parent out there, you know exactly what I'm talking about. There is so much, but I think part of what makes it so challenging is it's, of course, it's life-altering. Everything is kind of turned on its head. But a big part of it, I think, is because it's due to the amount of decisions that we're required to make as new moms, as new parents. All these things that are being thrown at us, you know, breastfeed, bottle feed, to go back to work, to not go back to work, whether it's your mom or dad, these are pretty common when I was young, when I was having kids, but I see so much more out there right now. We're living in a time when we have so many options. For example, when we had a baby shower for my daughter-in-law, and I was shopping, and I was like, oh my word, the different types of bottles, bassinets, car seats, strollers, you know, those are big items, but I could go on and on. Even the number of things that are available to purchase, it's like, which one do you choose? Which one do you choose? And then there's all these decisions like, you know, the attachment style, you know, baby-led, parent-led. You know, are you gonna be somebody that's gonna follow a schedule? Or are you gonna just let the child sort of dictate that? And it goes on and on and on. Are you gonna do whole milk when they get older? Are you gonna vaccinate, not vaccinate, which, you know, that's a whole topic in itself, but so on and so forth. You get the idea. There's just so many options available where it used to just that wasn't available to us. Why do I think this is important? Well, I believe that the skill of making decisions, of making decisions the way they should be made, it can change everything. It can change everything. Because the quality of your life, I believe, is directly related to your ability to make fast, confident decisions. Because if you're somebody who gets stuck in indecision, it just drains your energy and it keeps you stuck. When we can learn how to make decisions quickly and with confidence, it creates momentum, it empowers us. I don't think we realize how much energy, how much peace and momentum that we're losing simply by not deciding. We think that it's, you know, when we're overthinking, we it it appears wise or prudent, but very often it's fear. It's fear that's in disguise. We're trying to avoid something. To be fair, decision fatigue is a real thing. It's exhausting. Prolonging our decisions when we when we do this, it just creates more mental clutter. It drains us emotionally, and it lacks, you know, we we lack any forward movement in our lives. And we think that when we don't make a decision, that it's just, we're just sort of staying the same, that it's neutral, but that's not true. It's actually very costly. It's costly to us. I have to say, it's not taught in our schools. We haven't been taught how to make decisions. So it's okay if you're someone who struggles with this. Some of us struggle more than others. But I will say, this is probably the number one thing that I coach people on is how to make decisions. So if you're feeling like you're somebody that struggles in this area, you're not alone. It's a big issue. So today we're going to talk about how to become a confident decision maker because it truly can transform every area of your life. And why do I say that? Well, I believe the life that you have today is a result of the decisions that you've made so far. That's the reality. The decisions that we make all day, every day, what we say yes to, what we tolerate, what we delay, what we walk away from, what we accept, those are all decisions that we make. And that is what has created the life we have right now. And it affects every area of your life. So when you're confident in your decisions, you're not held back in your parenting, in your disciplining, in your boundaries, in the schools that you choose, in the schedules. You're not held back in your business and how to price and how to hire and how to pivot, how to create offers. You're not held back in any of your plans or your schedules, whether that's travel, managing your calendars or your commitments. You're not held back in big decisions in your life, like buying a home, building a home, selling a home, where you're gonna live, your job, or your purpose, your mission. You're not held back in your purchases and your time and your money and your investments. So let's talk about what it's costing you. The mental drain. So I mentioned about all the decisions of new parents, right? My son and his wife, because of all the options and the unknowns. Well, that's true for all of us. There are so many options in our world, and I've talked about this before, but we're living in a time of such great abundance, and with that, we have so many more options than we had even 50 years ago. And it's great. I I don't know that I want to change that, but a side effect of this is it's what's known as decision fatigue. And while I want to, I really want to focus on the bigger, more conscious decisions that keep us stuck, it's worth talking about all the micro decisions, like what time to get up in the morning, whether to hit the snooze button when the alarm goes off, what to eat for breakfast, whether to check your phone before you get in the shower, or to respond to that email. And if you're like me, whether you should grab that coffee as you run your child to school, should you grab it on the way out the door, which by the way annoys my son because I usually make the decision at the last minute, and I'm like, oh wait, I want to go grab a coffee. He's like, Really, mom? You didn't know that five minutes ago? Or, you know, if I should start that load of laundry or wait until I get home to throw the clothes in or whatever. I've read different numbers on this, but the average that I've seen is that by noon, by midday, you've already made well over a hundred decisions. And that's the minimum. So, wow, right? And the reason that this is important is because all of these small decisions are what creates decision fatigue. And this decision fatigue, it inhibits our ability to make informed and sound decisions once that fatigue has set in. So it's no wonder that we get to the end of the day and we're faced with food choices or we're tired or whatever and we choose what's easiest. It's because our brains were fatigued. We we don't have the mental capacity to make informed, wise decisions when we're making these sort of micro decisions all day long, right? And some big ones. But that's why sometimes we struggle with the big ones. That's where the real impact is. It doesn't matter if I grab my coffee on the way out the door, if I grab it later on, right? But those are decisions that I'm making. So it's like depleting my energy on these things that really don't matter, but it's taking up mental energy. He said that, you know, we choose what's easiest. But the reality is sometimes what happens is then we actually don't make any decision at all. And I know that that's true for me in my own life. When my husband presents me with these ideas at 8:30 or 9 o'clock at night and says, hey, we should look and decide where we're gonna go on vacation or something or where we want to book this place. I'm like, I, hon, I got nothing. I I don't care. I can't even. And it's why a lot of people just sort of like tune out at the end of the day. For some of us, maybe it's sitting in front of the TV or staring at our phones or playing some sort of video game on our phone or whatever it might be. That's why we do that, is because we're we're mentally drained. And so let's look at what indecision is and what that creates in our life. Indecision is one of the biggest energy leaks in our lives. It's true for men and women, but especially for women. And what it does is it creates second guessing, it creates anxiety, it creates self-doubt, and with that we lose trust in ourselves. And I just want to say that a wrong decision, it's often less damaging than no decision at all. And I use the word wrong, but I'll talk more about that in just a little bit, as this is a big block for so many of us as we believe incorrectly that there's a right and a wrong. And I'm gonna explain what that is and what that looks like, but we assign that to our decisions of being right and wrong. But the point is, is we hold off and we we try and avoid things, but honestly, it's better to just choose than to make no decision at all. So, what do we do? How do we how do we get better at this? So here's here's six things I want to offer you that will help you become a more confident decision maker. The first one being make fast decisions. Speed is key here. Speed builds confidence. And I know that a lot of you don't like to hear that, but it's true. Confidence is a muscle, and the more you use it, the stronger it gets. And the only way for that muscle to get stronger is to just do it more often, is to just make decisions faster. Most decisions don't need days or weeks. They really don't. It's best to just set a time limit. Set a time frame when you need to make a decision. And it's going to depend upon what you're trying to decide on, how big of a decision that is. But rarely, rarely does it take months to make a decision on something. It really shouldn't take that long. When you're looking at purchasing a car, this is very near and dear to me because my husband and I have been looking for a car. My husband knows this. I'm not throwing him under the bus. We've had this discussion, but I feel like this should just be like a two-week process. Really make a decision. We just come down with some options. This is what we're gonna do, and just go with it. And I'm just as guilty. We have we've been looking for a vehicle now for way longer than we should. But what happens is it's it's in the front of our minds, and we just we're gonna make a decision, and then everything else comes in and takes up takes a priority. But you know what? You know what would solve that is if we actually just set a deadline and said we need to have a vehicle by this date. Because whenever there is a deadline, whenever a decision has to be made, and I know this is true for you as well. Isn't the decision made? Even if it comes down to the last minutes, you make the decision when there's a deadline. So give yourself a time frame, set a deadline, pick it for a week or two out, and commit to that. Don't don't back down. It will save you so much, so much mental anguish, trust me. The next one is that we wrongly believe that there is a right or a wrong decision. And we do this, this is so huge, you guys. We feel like there's a right or a wrong. Then that and with that, there's so much pressure. We add so much pressure to our decisions because we think, I don't want to make the wrong decision. It paralyzes us because we're we're so we're so afraid we're gonna make the wrong decision. I want to tell you this. Most decisions are not right versus wrong. It's just simply this versus that. It's option A or option B. Option number one, option number two. You know, when we're kids, I get it. We're raised to make the right choices, right? You know, there's moral implication. We do we say, you know what, you shouldn't do that. That's not a good choice. That's not the right thing to do. What we're trying to teach them is how to live a moral life, how to be a good person, how to steward their life well. So we're teaching them the right way to live. And I'm I'm referring to like a moral framework, especially for those of us of faith. But even those of us not of faith, we still try and teach our kids right and wrong. But what we do is we carry that mentality into all of our decisions. And yes, there's still this still exists as adults. We do have decisions that are either morally morally good or morally corrupt, right? That that will harm us in some way. But those aren't typically the decisions that we're struggling with, you guys. That's not what we're struggling with. It's usually pretty clear to us if one decision is morally good and one is morally wrong, if it's corrupt, right? If it leads us down a path that we don't want to go. What in those situations, typically we know what's right, we're just tempted to do the other. And that's a very different thing. What I'm talking about here is those decisions where we're like, I just don't know. I don't know, I don't want to do the wrong thing. So most of those decisions, they don't fall into those categories. We we can, it's just a matter of like option A or option B. And what we usually mean when we say right or wrong, we mean that we want to create a certain feeling or a certain result. You know, I want to, I want to get just the right car. And what we mean by that is I want a car that I love. I want to make sure that I love this vehicle, or I want to be happy in my new job. What that means is I want to be satisfied with the work I'm doing. So now I want to take you back to what we've talked about in past episodes, just to remind you, and this is what I use when I'm working with people and understanding the model that we use. And and in doing so, I want to just remind you, what is it that creates the results in your life? It's not your circumstances, it's how you think about them, right? How you think about them, which creates how you feel, which creates how you act and show up, which is what really creates the results in your life. So when we're looking at the model, and we have the circumstance in our lives, and from there we have a thought about that circumstance. And then from that thought, we have an emotion. Our emotions come from our thoughts, and from our emotions, we act, and from there we have the results in our life. So let's just let me just get really clear here. If we know that what creates the results in our lives is actually our thoughts, not our circumstances, then doesn't it make sense that it's not the new car, it's not the new job that are actually going to create the results we want, which is really, I want to be happy, I want to love. And what I mean by that, to get real practical, is if you have an option between this car and that car, is it the car that's going to make you love it or be happy? Or is it the way you look at that car? Now we know this to be true because what makes somebody happy in a car is not what makes somebody else happy in a car. If that was the case, we'd all love the same vehicles. But what you make that mean, how you think about it, how you feel about it, is what creates whether you love it, whether it was a good decision or not. If we know this, then doesn't that eliminate all this pressure to make the right decision? Because what really, when we're trying to find what we're trying to create, is a decision that we're happy with or that we're satisfied with, that is really the results of our thinking. And therefore, you can create that. You can choose how you're going to think about that decision. You can choose that whatever that decision is was right. And maybe it wasn't right for you forever, but maybe it was right for you at this time. You can choose the fact that maybe this job is just what I needed in this moment. Maybe this is a it isn't the ideal job. You get into it, but you can choose to see it as this is a great opportunity for me. This is a great stepping stone, this is a learning opportunity. This is maybe opening doors for me for the ideal job down the road. Those are all options for you. And when you look at it like that, it takes away this pressure to be right or wrong. I want you to stop asking yourself, is this the right decision? Or I don't want to make the wrong decision. Just move forward and say, I'm gonna make sure that this was the right decision. I'm gonna make it the right decision. I have that power. And you do have that power. And I understand for some of you that that may take a little bit of of work around, that's okay. You can work on that in your in your time of journaling and in your own mindset work because that will change everything for you. Because that's really one of the biggest things is is the fear of it being wrong. And when we take that to the end, and when I ask people like, what is wrong? What is wrong? Very often it's well, I don't want to hate it, or I don't want to, well, you don't have to hate it. Or you can see it as a learning experience. Those are options available to you. All right. So number three, indecision. Indecision, and that's don't fall for indecision. Indecision can feel safe, but it can seem also seem very, very wise. It looks like we're being so prudent that we're really analyzing all the things, we're trying trying to figure out our options, we're gathering all the information. It looks really, really wise. But it also can become indulgent. And I've talked about this before indulgent behaviors. And just like we can indulge in chocolates or sweets or anything, anything else that sometimes draws us in, these things that make us feel good in the moment, but they don't nourish us. Just like those chocolates and those sweets. They don't provide any fuel for our bodies. So too, indecision, it will not fuel us for what we want. We can indulge in it, but it's not going to fuel us. It doesn't provide us anything. It doesn't give us what we need to move forward. It doesn't give us what we need to thrive in our lives. Indecision also doesn't require any action. It requires no stress, right? So it no action, no momentum, no progress, no growth. Right? That's not what we want in our lives. There's also no commitment in indecision. And commitment requires something of us. It really does. So one thing that I said before is about giving yourself a deadline. I'm going to say that here again. It's so important. If you're stuck in indecision, the best way to get out of it is to use the other tactics and to just make a decision quickly, set a deadline, and just do it. Indecision, it can be sneaky and we can get stuck there. Whatever you find the reasoning is, it's because you think that it you're you're being wise. If you think you're being prudent, if you think it's easier, very often it's it's a way that you're trying to protect yourself, right? It's keeping you, as you would say, safe. It's keeping you from being exposed, it's keeping you from being committed, and I understand that. But it also produces nothing. It produces nothing in your life. It's like locking yourself in a closet and saying, hey, I'm safe here. I don't have to go out on the streets. I don't have to face bad people. I don't have to spend any money. But do you really want to stay locked in a closet? No, of course not. That seems silly, but that's kind of what we do in indecision. And we say, well, I'm I'm just saying, no, you basically, yeah, you've kept yourself safe, but you're also not living and you're also not growing. And remember, indecision, believe it or not, it actually is a decision. You've decided not to do anything. And so when you look at it that way and say, I've decided I'm going to do absolutely nothing, it becomes just a little bit more apparent to you what you're doing. Number four, choose from a place of hope, not a place of fear. Many decisions are made from fear. And what do I mean by that? When I if somebody is struggling with decisions and I ask them, what's the problem with this, or why, why don't you want to choose this, or why are you struggling to choose that? They're going to say, Well, I don't know. I don't know if this is going to work. I don't know if I should take that job because then what if I find out that, you know what, I I can't grow. You know, what if it's better for me to just stay in this job because I had the benefits there and I don't want to lose them? And but then you'll say, well, okay, then why don't you stay where you're at? Well, right, but you know, I'm kind of miserable and then I'm probably not going to provide growth opportunities for me there. What happens is immediately our brains offer us all the things that we don't want to experience, all the worst case scenarios, all the negative, right? And it sounds something like, well, what if this doesn't work? What if I fail? Right. We have a few options when we make our decisions. And then if we take it to the end, like I like to say, our decision is almost always to avoid negative outcomes. And isn't that crazy? Rather, what is it, what would it mean if you asked yourself, you know, from a place of hope or positivity, is like, what do I want to create in this situation? What am I hoping to achieve? What what feels best to me in this situation? And the favorite one is if either option were okay, if I knew both of them would work out, which one would I choose? Or just basically, what do I want more? What excites me more? Those are the things that we should be focusing on when we're trying to make a decision. What do I really want to do? Because typically you want one more than the other. And when you can get clear about what are the positive outcomes that you want in either scenario, it usually leads you to one. So here's the thing: we can't predict the future. Shocker, right? We don't know what's going to happen. But it's safe to say that no matter what you choose, there's gonna likely be some ups and downs, some good things and some bad things. So for example, we're in the process of we're thinking about possibly considering a different house. And it's a few years down the road, but there's some things about this house that we struggle are struggling with that we actually would like to change, just not suiting our family's needs and for various reasons. And when we look at what we want in the future, there's some things that would suit our family's needs. But the crazy thing is, is those very things in my house, a few of them being like, we have some houses, some rooms that are small. They're kind of it's kind of compartmentalized. And now having six children, and most of them are they're either adults having their own families or they're almost there. When we have family gatherings, there's a lot of us. And so what do I want to accommodate that? Of course, I want a big open room. I want one big open room where we can all gather. Well, the crazy thing is that I can tell you when we built this house 23 years ago, I specifically wanted compartmentalized rooms. I wanted it separated because see, the thing is, is my last two houses that were built, my husband's a house, a home builder, so that's why we've built several houses. We had a big open room. We had a big open space that led into a kitchen, and it was an opening that went down into the basement. And I felt like we had little kids, and when we had parties, I was like, this house is so loud. And it was like my husband and I had no place to sort of retreat to. We had no separation. So of course I was like, I just want there to be separate places. As my kids grow up, I want them to be able to go to their own separate rooms. I want everybody to have their own spaces with having a larger family. I think that's important. It's great to gather, but I also think we need to respect the fact that everybody can have their own space. And me being an introvert, I really wanted that. So why do I mention all this? It's because back then, this is exactly what I wanted. But as soon as I get in this house, there were things that I was like, oh, you know what? I kind of miss having a big open room when we have gatherings. I don't have a place to put a nice big Christmas tree. I want a nice big tall Christmas tree. The rooms don't necessarily afford that where we can have a big Christmas tree with all the gifts around and we can all gather and sit around. So these are just little things that I noticed. But the reality is that it's 50-50. There was there were some pros and there's some cons to this house that we're living in. And the next house that we're gonna move into, whether we build or buy or whatever it is, we will make some changes that will suit those needs that we're looking for. But guess what? There's gonna be some things that I'm probably gonna miss about this house. There's gonna be some cons. There's gonna be some things that don't accommodate all of our needs. That is life. We can't get the perfect outcomes. We that's not our reality here. So when we're trying to make decisions, I think sometimes we're we're thinking that we can get everything just right. Everything's gonna be just perfect. Guess what? It's not. It's 50-50. Again, it's important to move from a place of trying to avoid the worst outcome or avoiding pain to pursuing the best outcome. What would make me happiest? What if what if either option would be great? Or as sports coaches like to say, stop playing not to lose and start playing to win. And what I like to say is, what if it turned out amazing? What if, what if it's amazing either way? You do get to decide that. The next one, number five, is want what you want. Now, this is a concept that I heard from one of my coaches, and she cited it from a book by uh Dan Sullivan. He's a he's uh a coach. He's in probably in his 80s, 70s, 80s, he's a little bit older. He's been coaching for years, but he has a book, and I don't know, I've never read it myself. I've read some of his other books. But the whole idea is that we think we think sometimes that we need to have permission to want what we want, which is it's crazy. We have to justify why we want certain things. And you know what? You don't need to. You can just want what you want. Now I want to clarify that does not mean that you're gonna get it or that you deserve it. But it's okay to want it. You don't have to give an explanation for why you want this thing or why you and when you can let that go, because sometimes our decisions, what we're doing is we're holding it up to this lens of like, should I even want this? Is this okay to want this? Like we're judging ourselves. You don't need to justify yourself for wanting something. You don't need to judge yourself for it. When we feel like we have to justify ourselves, even if it's to ourselves, our brains immediately suspect something and put a red flag by that. And we don't want that. These decisions are just, there's just two options, and we can want something just to want it. I can I can want a red convertible. I'm not saying I'm gonna get one, I'm not saying I deserve one. It doesn't have to make sense, but I can still want it. Doesn't mean I'm gonna decide to get it. I'm probably still gonna end up getting the minivan. But it's okay to want those things. So again, just remove the judgment. You don't have to justify it. You don't have to explain it to other people why you want this thing. It's okay. We live in a time where we do feel like we have to justify ourselves, like it has to make sense. It has to be logical. Our desires are not selfish, they really aren't. And very often, I just want to say this again they are pointing you towards something, towards your purpose and your mission. And it's okay. We were created to have these desires. And it's okay sometimes to just for me to just want a red convertible. That's not wrong. Number six, don't use spirituality to abdicate your responsibility. And what do I mean by that? Very often I see people, hear people, I should say, using discernment as a buffer and it can become a way of avoidance. They'll say, Well, I'm just discerning. I, you know, and it what they're really and there's a time of discernment, and that's fine. If you're somebody who is discerning something, I don't want to tell you, you shouldn't discern decisions and take them to the Lord in prayer and whatever, especially if they're big ones. Absolutely. But just become very careful of when it becomes indecision, when it becomes avoidance. I hear that, you know, God isn't giving me a clear answer, therefore I'm not going to decide. I've been praying about it, but I don't hear him. Waiting endlessly for signs or confirmations or even this enormous sense of peace, it can actually stall or hold up obedience. Really? Sometimes maybe what the Lord is calling us to is to just be obedient and to just make a decision. Most often, if you're not hearing what God wants you to do in a scenario, if you've been like, I have these two decisions, I don't know which one is right, I've taken it to the Lord, I've prayed about it, I'm not getting an answer, then that's likely a sign that God is inviting us to use our free will and make a decision. And then the opposite is true, where we actually don't make a decision. We feel like God told me to do this, God told me to do that. And we can use it as an excuse then. And if things don't go as we want, then we're upset. You know, I'm not sure. God told me to. Well, we know as, especially as Catholics, that our our suffering, the struggles we have, they can be redemptive. And maybe that's what God's inviting us into. And that should alleviate some pressure for us, especially as Catholics. So if we're struggling with the decision, and what is our what's our worst fear? Is that, oh, it won't turn out as I want, or I won't, well, it if if it's turns out maybe not as you want, or you might have some some challenges with that, great. Great. Then you get to use it as part of God's plan for your salvation. That should that should help you make a decision. And also, if that's not the case, what are you really afraid of? If we miss a sign or that we we didn't do something exactly the way God wants us to, that we're off course. Is that what we believe? That we somehow messed up our lives? I just want to assure you, that isn't how God works. He's likely going to correct our path sometime in the future, anyway. Or if he's tried to get our attention and we haven't been paying attention, he'll find another way to get our attention. Trust me. He does it all the time. So remember, discernment is a tool and it's meant to guide us, right? It's meant to guide our actions, but it's not meant to replace our actions. And clarity, sometimes the Lord only provides clarity after the decisions. He's asking us to step out in faith. He's asking us to decide, to trust that he will help us. And do we trust him? That's kind of an act of faith. So what changes? What happens? So say what happens when you decide confidently? What's the benefit? Well, you're gonna have less mental fatigue, less overwhelm, less anxiety, you're gonna have more peace. You're gonna trust yourself, you're gonna have greater momentum, and you're gonna have a greater sense of power or control or leadership over your own life. Confident decision making is not something that's for certain people. It's not a personality. Now, some people have are naturally inclined to this based on their strong term temperaments. However, most of the time it's a skill. And even for those people who do have that, they they still need they need to master that skill. They need to hone it in. They need to work on that. It needs to be refined. So it is a skill. And because it's a skill, it can be developed, and it's one of the most powerful skills that you can develop. So just remember you don't need more information, you don't always need a confirmation. What you need to do is decide. Decide quickly, decide fast. And if you don't like that decision, then guess what? You've learned something. Next time you can make a different decision. And if it's not that big of a deal, then you can just decide something different. Most of our decisions are not that permanent. We can't predict the future anyway, you guys. It's okay to take a leap of faith. It's okay to make a decision. Just decide. It'll be okay, I promise. Decide. Then move. Trust yourself and adjust if needed. But whatever you do, don't stay stuck. Until next time, onward and upward, my friends, to the heights. Thanks so much for listening today. If you have any questions or would like to go deeper into this topic or how it affects you in your own life, you can find me at Sharon Kcoaching.com. That's Sharon the LetterK Coaching.com. If you've enjoyed listening, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite platform. And feel free to share with anyone you think might benefit from what you've heard.